Monday, March 16, 2009

Denise's Big Weekend

Trace might get a week, but I was pretty satisfied with just a weekend. Hey, beggars can't be choosers especially when I hardly even get a day.

My weekend stared Friday night when Guy #1 asked me out on a date, yep a real LIVE date. Those of you who have befriended me on Facebook know this already when I posted a frantic message:

I just got asked out on a REAL date!!!! OMG!!!! What do I do????

I got 18 responses, all telling me to go. So of course I said yes. But the date wasn't until Sunday afternoon, so I still had Saturday to fill.

Saturday I had an appointment to get my hair cut and colored at the salon that did my hair when I got my makeover last August, oh and did I mention I hadn't had my hair cut or colored since that visit? I actually made the appointment before my big date, but it didn't hurt that I got beautified before. In reality, I made the appointment because of a photo shoot that we had on Monday. But more on that tomorrow.

When I got to the salon and sat in the chair my neighbor was sitting in the chair across from me! That was a huge surprise and added to the fun of my visit. Lori saw how cute I looked in my black vinyl cape and asked me out to lunch. Wow, this dating thing really has seemed to snowball.

Okay, I have to wonder why I don't go to the salon more often? I had so much fun, who knew? My colorist (because I'm just special enough to have a stylist and a colorist) was a hoot! He told me many stories but the most exciting one was that he was sued by a client and went on Judge Joe Brown. While I admit that it's not the most reassuring fact to know that the man putting chemicals on your hair was sued for ruining a woman's hair, I believed him when he told me that she had had it ruined by someone else and she asked him to fix it. He said it so convincingly. And he was almost done painting my hair.

After my chemicals were washed out, it was time for my cut. Both Allen and Safe, my stylist, knew I was going on a date and Safe especially had words of wisdom and advice. I started thinking "Who didn't know about my date?" Poor Guy #1, he had no idea that hundreds of people knew about his existence!

After I was done at the salon, I met Lori for lunch and had an awesome time. And I had been gone from home for 4 hours. When I got home, you would have thought it was 4 days. The nerve of Mommy to have fun without her pack of children!

My date was on Sunday afternoon. We were meeting to see Slum Dog Millionaire.(Although my brother Kevin tells me it wasn't a real date, it was merely a get together. He says a real date involves dinner.) We met early so we could talk before the movie started. He was a really nice guy and I had a great time. When the movie was over, we stayed for the credits and talked. He then walked me to my car and we said goodbye.

And this has been the source of much discussion over the last 24+ hours.

He didn't ask me out for a second date. Some people think he didn't want to put me on the spot or maybe he was worried I say no, so he would ask me via eHarmony like he did last time. I told my friend Sandra that I was sure it wasn't because I told him I had a wedding dress in my closet and it was really better suited for a summer wedding. ;>)

At this point, I haven't heard anything from him and this is what I've decided: I was me. I was the real me, albeit the socially acceptable me, and if he doesn't want to see me again, then that's okay. I think I'm in a good place. Twenty years ago I don't think I'd be this way, I've grown up enough to know that I'm not going to change to make a man happy. He needs to like me just the way I am, craziness and all.

But it still doesn't stop me from checking my email.

Hey, do you want to be my friend? If you want to be my Facebook friend, let me know and I'll tell you how to find me.
Edited Monday morning: Some of you have expressed interest in befriending me but you don't have email addresses to send you the info. So, I'll just save us all a bunch of trouble and give you my name here: Denise Grover Swank.


Party of Seven said...

Hey Denise- How do I find you on facebook? So happy to hear you had a great weekend. I need to have my hair done someday soon too.

Carey-Life in the Carpool Lane said...

You so have the right attitude...Good for you for going out with him, good for you for being the real (socially acceptable) you and good for you for knowing that if he doesn't call then he's not the right one!

And hey, you got a movie out of it right?

Lindsey's mom said...

Yeah! Good for you!!!! I have lots of single truck driver friends of my husbands!! You just have to move to Alaska!! No problem, right??

SpaGirl Jenn said...

I love going to the salon...but same as you, I go maybe once a year...LOL

So, How do I find you on Facebook???

I think if it was meant to be, then it will happen!!!! Great attitude =-) Stay positive and BE YOURSELF always!!!!

The Gotch 5 said...

Oooooooo if I get up to date dating info count me in on facebook!
I would say about bachelor #1 if he didn't like you for yourself his loss Who knows he is a guy and they are never on time and they never remember to do anything. Maybe he was too nervous!!

Kristy said...

You are awesome Denise!! I am so proud of you. You are who you are and that is perfect!! Any man would be so blessed to date you much less love you so just wait it out and wait for the right one.

Oh and another cant talk about your color person etc. etc. etc. and not post a picture of yourself lady??????

I am on FB so let me know ok.

Love, Kristy

Mary said...

Listen, if you haven't had to color your hair since AUGUST, then that means you aren't battling the take-over of gray hair! Lucky, lucky you!
Something wonderful happens to us women when we pass that '40' mark...we are finally comfy in our skin...too bad it just takes us 40 years to get there! :-)
Keep us posted if there is a date #2!

Candace said...

I don't get to the salon nearly as much as I should...I think you've inspired me to make an appointment. do I find you on Facebook?

I think your attitude about guy #1 is great!

Shari U said...

Oh yeah, me too! I want to be your facebook friend. I just signed up a couple weeks ago and I love it!

Heather said...

Denise you are exactly right. You have such a great outlook on the whole thing. I just think it is awesome that you were willing to try it. We all have to start somewhere.

And who knows, he may be the week later caller.

Karen (KayKay) said...

You have a great way of looking at the whole thing! It's got to be nerve wracking. I bet he'll call. Probably just doesn't want to seem to be to eager - just playin' it cool.

Kristin said...


I think that's awesome that you are not going to change for anyone! I'm glad you had a good time and I know if it's meant to be, then things will work out, whether it be with this guy or a different one.

I would love to be your friend! I just got onto facebook not too long ago!

Jules said...

I did the eharmony thing-it matched me up with either pastors (i'm Catholic and the non-Catholic Christians they paired me up with apparently thought that Catholics=evil) or fitness buffs. Uh-yeah. I'm not exactly a fitness buff. And fitness buffs are rarely interested in overweight couch-potatoes.

Hey-if it doesn't work out. At least you're trying!

Oh-and I'd like to be a FB buddy . . .

Brandy said...

Forget the guy...what's this about a photo shoot?

Nancy said...

Would love to be your friend on fb. email?

Party of Seven said...

I would love to have you come to Maui!!! I am lucky this year I get two trips, one to Maui and one to where ever us blog gals are going to meet up!!! I cant wait!

Margaret M said...

So happy that you went on a date. Tried to catch you live on facebook last night to chat but alas, it just didn't work out. I am trully interested in what you are thinking about eharmony...I'm not ready to date yet but one day, I may be.

Jill said...

Hmmmm, what about the guy? Was he nice? Did YOU like HIM??

The Sharp Family said...

yeah :) I am so glad that you had a good time! And I am SURE that he is still in awe of your beauty and charm that he is waiting to cool of before asking you out for another date :) You are the best... never forget that! XOXO

The Johnson 5 said...

I was SO EXCITED when I saw your status on Facebook.

What you just said is RIGHT ON! And honey if he doesn't call you back, it is SO his loss.

Your an amazing HUMAN BEING! And I can't wait until we all get to meet each other. I'm thinking we might need to invest in some kleenex that day.

It will be like seeing a long lost friend!
Keep us posted on your E harmony adventures!!

heathernkids said...

I don't know if you watch the Millionaire Matchmaker, but there are goofy men out there that evidently still believe in waiting at least three days to call.
To which my advice is, only answer when he calls if he was REALLY cute. ;)

Brenda Jean said...

That's SO cool. Even if he doesn't call, you had fun and you took a chance:) Plus if he doesn't call you then he doesn't know what he's missing!!!